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However, you *might* want to try talking to Coworker directly one more time before you take it to the boss.
My most benign possible read on the situation is that she got over-excited about the trip, misread the situation completely and thought since you were friendly it would be cool if she joined you, and now she doesn’t know how to back down without losing face.
Use your friend’s name in any bookings, too, to make yourself harder to find.
F) Depending on your relationship with your manager, bring it up with them first. You could follow up/document via email, but start in-person.
This has been a dream of ours for a long time, so we have a lot of plans.
A coworker – with whom I’m friendly, but not very close – heard through the grapevine about my trip and started a conversation about when I was going and what I planned to do.
She seemed to understand and didn’t mention it again for a while.
However, I later overheard her talking to another coworker about ‘our trip’, and how I had planned everything out for ‘us’ to do.
She got upset and said I’d been so enthusiastic about my trip that she’d gotten excited as well, and why was it so difficult for one more person to join us?
Since this is not work-related, I don’t feel like I can bring it up to our managers.
I know I can’t stop her from making her vacation plans, even if they coincide with my own, but she already knows the name of my hotel and my rough itinerary from that first conversation, so how can I get it across that my friend and I do not want her with us?
Obviously this problem is a bit different from many of the other letters you get, but I have no idea how to address this situation. Thank you, Tokyo Traveller preferred pronouns she/her Dear Tokyo Traveller, This is a nightmare, and one reason it’s a nightmare is that you’ve already told her directly that you don’t want to hang out with her in Japan and she’s blatantly not accepting this reality. When someone refuses to engage with the reality of what you are saying when it conflicts with their own desires, that is very weird, and scary!
Reasons are for reasonable people, and repeating yourself and explaining things more just gives unreasonable people the idea that stuff is negotiable.
I’m concerned that she might have booked at the same hotel or that she’ll show up there, and I don’t want to cause a scene or have to try and avoid her.