Patience dating single dad
" The short answer is "great," but the long answer is much more complicated. There were many pressing issues I had to deal with and dating was just not on the top of my list.After I divorced my husband, I was not very interested in going out and meeting guys. Once things settled down though, I was ready to test the waters.The dating scene taught me a lot about our community as well as a lot about myself, and what I needed and wanted. In addition, as a gay man I know the benefits and importance of also taking care of myself -- like the flight attendants say, "Put your oxygen mask before helping others." 5. Gay culture allows for great relationships with your ex but the kid factor takes it to a whole new level. There are so many reasons why not to date us but I believe that there are even more reasons to give it a shot -- but of course I am not very objective.Through that experience I realized how high-maintenance I had become. Not since being closeted do I remember being so conscious of my public displays of affection. It's a transformative experience that may test your gay sensibility, but also opens a whole new beautiful world.
On less discerning sites where my profile wasn't as important as the picture, I was just another white, educated, professional guy living in the Bay Area. But I'm less concerned about my boyfriend's freedom of expression than about my kid's general wellbeing. My vacation schedule typically looks like my kid's school schedule.
It was interesting to see how one aspect of my life -- albeit an incredibly important one -- changes the entire matchmaking formula. So boys, it's a little more thinking before speaking. That doesn't leave a lot for romantic getaways or spontaneous trips.
Generally speaking, the guys who wanted to date were younger and more free-spirited. Many guys are not used to being in a relationship where they are not the focus of attention. He's important to my kid and therefore important to me. Much of what the travel industry markets to our community isn't on our family bucket list. As you can see dating is a bit different through the lens of a gay dad.
I realized that dating me would be a measure in patience and adaptability. If we only get together once a week, it's not because I am not interested -- it's just that there aren't enough hours in the day. I just don't want the neighbor kid telling my son whom I am dating. And lastly, about two years ago I did meet an incredible guy who loves me for who I am.
It would take a very special person to want to put up with everything I was putting out. He's patient, understanding, kind and best of all, puts up with me.